THIS Is Why Your Boss Doesnt Want To Be Your Friend

THIS Is Why Your Boss Doesnt Want To Be Your Friend Im the manager of a small communications team and gosh I like my employees. Seriously I do. I think theyre talented, smart individuals who are enjoyable to be around. Heck, Id go as far as to call them fun We work in close quarters and collaborate frequently. I genuinely like being around them and hope they feel the same. But theyre not my friends. Im not theirs either.And I dont want to be.Sound harsh? It may seem that way, but theres a good reason for it.Why Doesnt Your Boss Want to Be Your Friend?Being friends with your employees makes it a lot mora challenging to actually manage them. Its tougher to enforce the rules and make the often difficult decisions that accompany being a boss.For example, it can be hard to tell an employee they didnt get that raise they were hoping for or that they messed up. You have to be able and willing to provide honest feedback that sets your employee up for success, without concern of personal ti es compromising that ability.Not to mention, being true friends with an employee also opens the door to potential favoritism, regardless of how fair of a person you may consider yourself.What Can Your Boss Do to Still Be Friendly?Now, none of this is to say that it isnt important to make aya your employee feels like more than an email address or a job function. (Hey, thats Polly, our spreadsheet maker) It is absolutely crucial and should not be overlooked. Besides the fact that its important just from a human being standpoint, employees in the United States are actually more engaged when they feel that someone in their workplace caresabout them, like their supervisor.Taking an interest in your employees and how theyre doing especially in terms of balancing work and life shows your humanity.In turn, this makes your employees more likely to feel confident and appreciated by their company and encourages them to share their ideas with you. Engagement also makes an employee more likely to advocate for their employer. The more connected people feel to their colleagues, the better they perform in the workplace.A great boss should be fostering positive work relationships and an environment that facilitates brainstorming and overall productivity. They should also give employees an ability to bond, share experiences and contribute to the companys overall mission and goals. But they dont need to be hanging out with their employees outside of work-related functions or teambuilding events. They also do not need to follow them on social media. Thats a friend activity and a boss, no matter how cool or well-liked, does not need to know the nitty-gritty details of their employees personal lives.As a boss, you have to be your employees leader, first and foremost. Once that level of respect has been removed, the ability to provide clear and firm leadership unravels. This goes for the most flexible and supportive managers as well as the more conservative or intense. You can car e about them and want them to succeed and even take a sincere interest in their hobbies or their family life.But thats called solid, comprehensive leadership not friendship.--Joelle is a writer, editor, and registered yoga teacher living in southern California with a passion for celebrating the messiness of life through storytelling. She holds a MA in Journalism from New York University and loves a well-written sentence, brunch, and staying active. To read more of her writing, visit her website www.joellezarcone.com.